I've seem to have sparked something with my comment.
Don't feel.
Think.
Open your mind to what people say.
Even if it is not what you asked for.
Emotions come naturally.
Often they are reactions.
Thinking is secondary and therefore sometimes challenging.
Emotion and logic are a balance that go hand in hand.
Emotions help to point out things of interest in your mind, but logic evaluates what they mean.
The idea here isn't to be emotionless.
It's to be serious. --> a combination of emotion and logic, not just one or the other.
Read a full block of text.
Highlight keywords.
Run tests on the parts you find interesting.
Draw connections from old thoughts to new thoughts.
Ask questions to yourself or others.
Repeat.
This will still lead to emotions.
--> You can be happy with the information provided, and enjoy the new thoughts you have.
--> You can be frustrated with the information, it was incomplete, broken, or you were not able to understand it.
But those emotions should get a secondary pass of logic as well.
Is any kind of attitude justified when criticizing?
I don't think I really believe in justification.
I know that isn't useful.
But just want to openly admit that I can't help in that part of the conversation.
It is of course open to discussion.
Honestly, I do think this community has issues (as all communities do), but elitism isn't one of them.
If you want to talk more about this go ahead.
Some of it was covered a few months ago if that's what you mean.
Or maybe it's something new or better formed at this time.
There are many thoughts and comments here I have not addressed in the above.
Will try to think them over some and respond.