What Really Happened With Tori Spelling and Brian Austin Green

You remember the prom. Or the wedding. If you grew up in the nineties, David Silver and Donna Martin weren't just characters; they were the gold standard for high school sweethearts who actually made it. But the real story between Tori Spelling and Brian Austin Green is way messier, more human, and frankly, more interesting than anything Aaron Spelling ever put on a script.

They spent eighteen years not speaking. Seriously. Nearly two decades of silence between two people who were once "inseparable."

The First Love Nobody Noticed

It’s wild to think about now, but while the world was obsessing over Brenda and Dylan, Tori and Brian were living their own secret drama. Tori has recently been very open about this—maybe even too open for some fans. She straight-up called Brian her "first love" on her misSPELLING podcast.

They weren't just co-stars. They were teens. They were hormonal. And they were hooked up in a way that Brian describes as "a soul connection," even if he’s a bit more cagey about the "dating" label than she is.

Tori remembers their first time happening after a massive blowout fight at Disneyland. Brian? He says he doesn't remember that specific detail. Awkward. Honestly, it sounds like every teenage relationship ever, just with more cameras and better hair.

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The 18-Year Rift

So how do you go from being "soulmates" to not speaking for almost twenty years?

• Losing herself: Tori admits she got lost in a relationship with another co-star, Vincent Young (who played Noah).
• The partner factor: Brian was with Vanessa Marcil, and Tori felt like she couldn't watch her friend be treated in ways she didn't agree with.
• A lack of confidence: Brian recently confessed on his Oldish podcast that he simply didn't have the self-confidence to fix the rift.

It wasn't one big explosion. It was just... life. You stop calling. You move houses. You get married to other people (Dean McDermott for her, Megan Fox for him). Suddenly, it's 2024 and you haven't talked since the Bush administration.

Reconnecting in the Age of Divorce

Healing is a weird thing. It usually happens when everything else is falling apart. As both stars navigated high-profile divorces recently, they found their way back to each other.

Brian is further along in his journey—he's engaged to Sharna Burgess now—but he’s been a rock for Tori as she untangles her life from Dean. They’ve been doing live events together, like the 25th-anniversary panels for their TV wedding.

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They were supposed to host a big "90s After Dark" party in Las Vegas just a few weeks ago, in late December 2025. Tori had to pull out at the last second because of a health scare. She posted about having to "listen to her body," which sounds like code for "I’m burnt out and actually sick."

It’s clear the bond is back, though. They talk on the phone constantly. They lean on each other for parenting advice.

What People Get Wrong

Most fans think they were always best friends. They weren't. There was a lot of resentment there. Brian felt like he tried to reach out and Tori blew him off; Tori felt like she was just surviving her own personal chaos.

They also aren't "dating" now, despite what the tabloid comments sections want to believe. It’s deeper than that. It’s that specific kind of bond you only have with someone who saw you become famous before you knew how to drive.

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Navigating a Post-90210 World

If you're looking for lessons in the Tori Spelling and Brian Austin Green saga, it’s basically a masterclass in "it's never too late to text back."

1. Acknowledge the silence. Don't pretend the 18 years didn't happen. Talk about why you stopped.
2. Value the history. There's a reason they keep coming back to David and Donna. That shared history is a currency that doesn't devalue.
3. Set boundaries. Brian has been very clear that while they love each other, he’s in a committed relationship.

If you want to keep up with them, the best bet is following their respective podcasts—Oldish and misSPELLING. They drop more truth bombs there in twenty minutes than they did in ten seasons of television.

Check your old friendships. Is there someone you haven't talked to since 2006 because of a "lack of confidence"? Maybe send the text. You might not get a Las Vegas residency out of it, but you might get your "soul connection" back.

Actionable Insight: If you're a fan of the duo, look for the rescheduled "90s After Dark" dates in early 2026. Tori is reportedly recovering and they are expected to announce new Vegas appearances by the spring.