Let's just be real for a second. The internet has turned the idea of how to make a woman squirrel—or, more accurately, how to facilitate female ejaculation—into some kind of competitive sport or a magic trick you can perform if you just find the right "button." It’s everywhere. From adult film tropes to "wellness" influencers promising a life-changing experience, the pressure is on. But if you talk to actual researchers like Dr. Beverly Whipple, the woman who literally helped coin the term "G-spot," or sex therapists who deal with this daily, the reality is way more nuanced and, honestly, way less stressful than the videos make it look.
It’s not a parlor trick. It’s biology.
Most people are chasing a fountain when they should be focusing on blood flow and relaxation. If you’re coming at this with a "goal-oriented" mindset, you’ve already lost the battle. The body doesn't work that way. Women’s bodies, specifically, tend to shut down when they feel like they’re being "worked on" rather than being played with. You have to understand the anatomy before you even think about the technique. We’re talking about the Skene’s glands, the urethral sponge, and a whole lot of pelvic floor coordination.
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The Science of the Skene’s Glands
First off, let’s clear up the "what." What is actually happening? For a long time, the medical community was dismissive. They thought it was just urinary incontinence. But researchers like Florian Wimpissinger have conducted studies—real ones, with chemical analysis—showing that the fluid expelled often contains prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP) and prostate-specific antigen (PSA).
Wait, what?
Yeah, basically, women have a female version of a prostate. These are the Skene’s glands, located near the lower end of the urethra. When a person is aroused, these glands fill up. For some, they empty during orgasm or intense stimulation. For others, they don't. And here is the kicker: both are totally normal.
The fluid isn't always the same, either. Sometimes it's a small amount of thick, milky fluid. Other times, it's a larger volume of clear fluid that looks a lot like urine because, well, it often contains urea and creatinine from the bladder. A 2014 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine used ultrasound to show that the bladder fills up before the "event" and empties afterward. So, it's often a mix. If you’re worried about the "mess," you’re missing the point of the physiological release.
Why Tension is the Enemy
You can’t force a "squirt." You just can't.
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Think about it. When a woman feels pressured to perform a specific physical feat—especially one that involves her bladder area—the natural instinct is to tighten the pelvic floor. It's a "guarding" reflex. To experience this kind of release, the pelvic floor actually needs to be engaged and then relaxed in a very specific rhythm.
I’ve talked to plenty of women who say they only experienced this when they finally stopped trying. It’s about the "come hither" motion, sure, but it’s also about the mental state. If she's thinking, "Is it happening yet? Is he/she waiting for it?" the sympathetic nervous system kicks in. That’s your fight-or-flight mode. You need the parasympathetic nervous system—the rest-and-digest mode—to be in the driver's seat for the Skene’s glands to do their thing.
Technique: Beyond the "Come Hither"
If you’re looking for the "how," it’s usually associated with G-spot stimulation. But the G-spot isn't a literal spot like a freckle. It's an area of the anterior (front) vaginal wall, about one to three inches inside. It's actually the internal structure of the clitoris and the urethral sponge being pressed together.
- Warmth and blood flow first. You don't just dive in. Spend twenty minutes—minimum—on the rest of the body. If her legs aren't shaking a little bit from general arousal before you even touch the "spot," you're moving too fast.
- The Hook. Use one or two fingers, palms facing up toward the belly button. Use a firm, rhythmic "come hither" motion.
- The "Urge." This is where most people fail. As the area becomes engorged, it often feels like the need to urinate. This is the "point of no return." Most women will pull away or stop at this moment because they are afraid of an accident. This is where communication is huge. You have to reassure her that it’s okay to let go.
- Rhythm variation. Don't just do the same thing for ten minutes. Speed it up, slow it down. Use your other hand to provide clitoral stimulation or "tenting" pressure on the lower abdomen, just above the pubic bone.
Honestly, the "abdominal press" is a game changer for many. While one hand is internal, the other hand applies gentle, downward pressure on the lower belly. This sandwiches the Skene's glands and the urethral sponge between your hands.
The Psychological Component
We have to talk about the "porn star" expectations. In many adult films, the "ejaculation" you see is often exaggerated or even faked using squirt bottles or excessive hydration. It’s created a standard that is physically impossible for many women to meet.
Dr. Nan Wise, a neuroscientist and sex therapist, often points out that focusing on the "output" ruins the "input." If the goal is a specific fluid volume, you’re treating the body like a machine. Instead, focus on the sensation of fullness. The "squirting" itself is just a byproduct of a specific type of intense, localized congestion and release.
Some women will never ejaculate. And guess what? Their orgasms aren't "less than." Some women do it once and never again. Some do it every time. It’s like being able to roll your tongue or having a specific type of reflex. It’s physiological luck mixed with a high degree of comfort and specific stimulation.
Practical Steps for Exploration
If you or your partner want to explore this, you have to set the stage. You can't do this in a rush before work.
- Hydrate, but don't overdo it. You want the body to have fluid to work with, but a painfully full bladder creates too much internal pressure and makes the "urge to pee" sensation overwhelming rather than pleasurable.
- Towels. Lots of them. Remove the fear of ruining the mattress. Use a "Liberator" throw or just a few thick beach towels. If the fear of the mess is gone, the brain can relax.
- The "Push" Method. Encourage her to "push" out with her pelvic muscles, almost like she’s trying to urinate, while the stimulation is happening. This helps relax the urethral sphincter.
- Toys can help. Sometimes fingers get tired. A curved vibrator designed for G-spot stimulation (like the ones from Lelo or Womanizer) can provide the consistent, heavy vibration that fingers sometimes lack.
A Note on Consent and Comfort
Never make this a "goal" without explicit, enthusiastic agreement. Some women find the sensation of female ejaculation uncomfortable or even annoying because of the cleanup involved. If she’s not into it, drop it. The best sex happens when both people are tuned into what actually feels good, not what they think should be happening based on a Google search or a video they saw.
Ultimately, the "secret" to how to make a woman squirrel isn't a secret at all. It’s a combination of trust, high arousal, specific internal stimulation of the urethral sponge, and the willingness to let go of control.
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Next Steps for Action:
Start by focusing on the "front wall" of the vagina during your next session without the expectation of any specific result. Use plenty of lubrication—even if she seems "wet enough"—to reduce friction on the sensitive urethral tissue. Practice the "come hither" motion with varying pressure, and use your free hand to apply gentle pressure to the lower abdomen. Most importantly, talk about the sensation of "needing to go" beforehand so it isn't a surprise when it happens. If the sensation arises, encourage her to breathe through it and lean into the feeling rather than pulling back.