It is 2026, and the world is finally starting to catch up with Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers, but honestly? Most people still don’t quite get it. You’ve probably seen the headlines over the last decade. They’re "queer," they’re "polyamorous," they’re "gender-fluid." It sounds like a lot of buzzwords. But if you strip away the labels that the internet loves to obsess over, you’re left with a relationship that is surprisingly... grounded.
Maybe even traditional, in its own weird way.
They’ve been together for nearly 20 years. Think about that. In Hollywood years, that’s basically a century. They met in college, grew up together, and navigated the messy transition from "Younger" star and fitness entrepreneur to parents of two.
The Evolution of the "Queer Polyamorous" Label
When Nico and Bethany first started talking openly about their marriage around 2017 and 2018, the media treated it like a circus act. People assumed it meant they were just having wild parties every night.
But Nico has been pretty blunt about the reality. They once described themselves as a "serial monogamist in my polyamory." Basically, they aren't out there "swinging" with random couples. It’s more about the freedom to have deep, individual connections with other people without it threatening the "anchor" of their marriage.
"We aren’t swingers. We don’t have relationships with other couples... I have a partner in LA that I’ve had for a long time, but I’m not his only partner; he’s not my only partner." — Nico Tortorella
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It’s about loyalty, not just sex. They’ve spent months apart in different countries, dated other people for years, and yet, they always come back to each other. It’s a sort of radical honesty that most couples would find terrifying.
Parenting in the "Space Between"
Life changed drastically for the couple in the last few years. The shift from being a "queer power couple" to a "queer power family" happened in two big waves:
- Kilmer Dove Meyers Tortorella: Their first child, a daughter, arrived in March 2023.
- Pesce Pearl Meyers Tortorella: Their son was born in October 2024, famously arriving right in the middle of Hurricane Milton.
The birth of Pesce (which means "fish" in Italian) was pure chaos. They were in Florida, the storm was howling, and he was born "in the tent under the stars," as they later shared on their podcast, Full of Shift. It’s a fittingly dramatic entrance for a family that has never done anything by the book.
Naming their kids after their grandfathers—Kilmer and Pesce—shows a side of them people often miss: they are deeply connected to their family roots. They’re building a legacy, even if it looks different from the one they grew up with.
What They're Doing Right Now
If you're wondering what Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers are up to in 2026, they are busier than ever. Nico has moved beyond just acting. After starring in City on Fire on Apple TV+, they really leaned into music. They spent 2025 recording and releasing an album that explores everything from their gender identity to the exhaustion of new parenthood.
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Bethany is still the powerhouse behind the be.come project.
If you haven't checked it out, it’s not your typical "shred your abs" fitness app. It’s built on body neutrality. Bethany has been incredibly open about their past struggles with disordered eating, and the project is basically the antithesis of "bounce-back culture." In a 2026 world where everyone is obsessed with AI-generated perfection, Bethany’s focus on "moving meditation" and low-impact routines feels more necessary than ever.
The Realities of Gender Fluidity
Both Nico and Bethany use they/them pronouns, and they’ve been vocal about how their marriage is a "spiritually religious fusing." They didn't just get a civil union at the City Clerk’s Office in 2018; they went to St. Paul’s Chapel to read vows.
They’ve admitted that being this open has its "roadblocks." It isn't always easy to explain to your family that you're married but also dating someone else, or that you don't subscribe to the binary of "husband and wife." But they’ve chosen to be educators.
They recently talked about how they plan to raise their kids with an understanding of:
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- Gender assigned at birth (the biology)
- Gender expression (how you dress and act)
- Gender identity (who you are inside)
They want their kids to have the language they didn't have growing up.
Actionable Insights from the Tortorella-Meyers Model
You don't have to be polyamorous or gender-fluid to take something away from their journey. Their relationship offers a few "real-world" lessons for anyone trying to maintain a long-term partnership:
- Redefine the "Anchor": You need to know who your person is. For Nico and Bethany, no matter who else they date, they are each other's "best friend first."
- Body Neutrality over Positivity: You don't have to love your body every day. You just have to respect it. This is the core of Bethany’s work and a great mental health hack.
- Radical Communication: They talk about the "ton of shit" they've been through. You can't survive 20 years without being willing to have the "gross" conversations.
- Embrace the Ebb and Flow: Interests, sexualities, and even identities change. Allowing your partner the space to change without leaving them is the ultimate test of love.
The story of Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers isn't finished. It’s just moving into a new chapter—one involving diapers, hurricane births, and a lot of podcasting. They’ve proven that you can build a stable, long-lasting life on a foundation that looks completely "unstable" to the outside world.
To keep up with their latest updates, you can follow their journey on the Full of Shift podcast or check out Bethany’s routines on the be.come project app.