It is one of the most searched, yet deeply misunderstood, topics in human sexuality. Everyone has seen a clip or read a forum post that makes it look like a predictable, explosive fountain. But when you’re alone in your room trying to figure out how to squirt by masturbating, the reality is often more about frustration than hydration.
Let's be real. It’s messy. It’s confusing. And for a lot of people, the harder they try to "make it happen," the more elusive it becomes. That’s because female ejaculation—or "squirting," as the internet has rebranded it—isn't a simple off-on switch. It is a complex physiological response involving the Skene’s glands, the bladder, and a very specific type of arousal that most people accidentally kill by overthinking it.
Actually, the science is still catching up. For years, the medical community dismissed it as "urinary incontinence." It wasn't until researchers like Dr. Beverly Whipple (who helped coin the term G-spot) and more recently, studies published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, started looking at the chemical composition of the fluid that we got some answers. It’s not just "pee," though it contains traces of urea and creatinine. It also contains prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP), a protein found in male semen, proving it originates from the female prostate—also known as the Skene’s glands.
Understanding the fluid and the plumbing
You have to know what you’re working with before you start. The fluid comes from two places. Most of the volume is actually diluted urine that has collected in the bladder and been modified by the Skene’s glands during high levels of arousal. This is why many people feel a "need to pee" right before it happens. If you rush to the bathroom the moment you feel that pressure, you’re basically draining the tank before the show starts.
The Skene’s glands sit right near the urethra. When you get turned on, these glands fill up. Think of them like a sponge. To get them to release, you need a combination of the right pressure and a specific kind of relaxation. It’s a paradox. You need to be highly peaked, but your pelvic floor has to be "open" rather than tightly clenched.
The G-Spot connection is non-negotiable
If you want to know how to squirt by masturbating, you have to master G-spot stimulation. The G-spot isn't a magical button; it’s an area of spongy tissue on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, about one to two inches inside. When you stimulate this area, you are actually massaging the back of the clitoral structure and the Skene’s glands simultaneously.
Most people use a "come hither" motion with their fingers. It works, but it’s tiring. If you're using your hands, use two fingers, palm up, and apply firm, rhythmic pressure. You aren't just stroking the surface; you’re trying to move the tissue underneath. It should feel slightly ridged or bumpy, like a walnut or the roof of your mouth.
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Why your brain is your biggest obstacle
Stress kills the reflex. Honestly, if you are staring at your watch or thinking about your laundry, it won't happen. The "urge to urinate" is the biggest hurdle. Your brain is trained from childhood to "hold it in" when you feel pressure on your bladder. Squirting feels almost identical to the sensation of losing control.
To bypass this, you have to mentally give yourself permission to wet the bed. Seriously. Put down a couple of thick towels or a waterproof "sex blanket." If you’re worried about the cleanup, you’ll subconsciously tighten your pelvic floor muscles (the PC muscles). That tightness acts like a cork. You have to "push out" like you’re trying to pee, even though your brain is screaming at you not to.
Toys and tools that actually help
While fingers work, many find that toys designed for G-spot reaches are more effective because they provide consistent, blunt force. Wand vibrators are famous for this. The sheer power of a Hitachi-style wand can vibrate the entire pelvic area, loosening the muscles and stimulating the glands without you getting a hand cramp.
Don't ignore the clitoris. While the G-spot is the engine for squirting, the clitoris is the ignition. Most people need a high level of overall arousal to reach the threshold where the Skene’s glands release. Combining a clitoral suction toy with internal G-spot massage is often the "cheat code." It creates a dual-pronged approach that floods the pelvic region with blood and fluid.
Hydration: You can’t pour from an empty cup
It sounds simple, but it’s true. If you are dehydrated, you aren’t going to produce much fluid. Drink a large glass of water about 30 to 60 minutes before you start. You want your bladder to be partially full—not painfully bursting, but enough that there’s some pressure there.
Wait. Don't go too crazy with the water. If your bladder is too full, the sensation of the G-spot massage can actually become painful or just distracting. It’s a goldilocks situation. You want just enough fluid to provide that "urge," but not so much that you’re focused on running to the toilet.
The "Pushing" Technique
When you feel that peak approaching—that intense, slightly overwhelming pressure—most people tend to pull back. They squeeze their legs together. They hold their breath. This is the exact opposite of what you should do.
- Open your legs wide. This relaxes the pelvic bowl.
- Breathe deeply into your stomach. Shallow chest breathing tightens your muscles.
- Bear down. Instead of pulling "up and in" like a Kegel, think about the muscle movement you use when you're trying to speed up a pee. Push out.
- Keep the rhythm. Don't stop the stimulation when it gets intense. Many people stop right at the edge because it feels "too much." Keep going through the sensation.
Let's talk about the "Pee" myth
There is a lot of stigma here. A 2014 study led by Salama et al. used ultrasound to monitor the bladders of women who squirt. They found that the bladder fills up before the event and empties afterward. So yes, a large portion of the fluid is technically urea-based. Does it matter? Not really. In the heat of the moment, the chemical makeup of the fluid is less important than the neurological release and the intense orgasm that usually accompanies it.
If you’re worried about the smell or the "gross" factor, just remember that the fluid released during arousal is significantly more dilute than your first-morning bathroom trip. It’s mostly water.
Common mistakes that stop the flow
The biggest mistake is focusing on the fluid instead of the pleasure. Squirting is a side effect of a specific type of arousal, not the goal itself. If you focus solely on the "output," you’ll likely fail because you aren't actually getting turned on. You’re just performing a mechanical task.
Another issue is lack of lubrication. Even if you "self-lubricate," G-spot stimulation requires a lot of friction. If the skin gets irritated, your body will naturally want to stop. Use a high-quality, water-based lube. Avoid anything with glycerin or warming agents, as these can cause yeast infections or irritation when used internally for long periods.
Different bodies, different results
It’s worth noting that some people simply don’t have large Skene’s glands. Anatomy varies wildly. Just like some people have more sensitive earlobes or different shaped toes, the size and "activity" of these glands are not uniform. If you’ve followed every tip, stayed hydrated, relaxed your pelvic floor, and it still doesn't happen, it doesn't mean you’re "broken." It just means your body expresses its peak arousal differently.
Actionable steps for your next session
Start by setting the environment. Take the pressure off.
- Prepare the space: Use a waterproof barrier. This removes the "mess" anxiety from your subconscious.
- Hydrate early: Drink 16-20 ounces of water an hour beforehand.
- Warm up: Spend 15 minutes on clitoral stimulation or whatever gets your heart rate up before even touching the G-spot.
- Find the spot: Use your fingers or a curved toy to apply firm pressure to the front wall of the vagina.
- The "Release" Phase: When the urge to pee hits, do not clench. Lean into the sensation, bear down (push out), and keep the stimulation constant.
Focusing on the physical sensations of fullness and "opening up" rather than the end result usually yields the best results. Whether it's a few drops or a larger release, the key is the relaxation of the pelvic floor and the willingness to let go of control.