Let’s be real for a second. The internet has turned female ejaculation into a sort of Olympic sport, or worse, a special effect from a movie. You’ve probably seen the videos. You’ve heard the boasts. But if you’re trying to figure out how to make her squirt, you need to strip away the porn-industry myths and look at the actual biology of the human body. It isn’t some magic trick. It isn’t something that happens every time for every person. Honestly, for many women, the pressure to "perform" this way actually makes it harder to reach any kind of climax at all.
Squirting is a physiological response that involves the Skene’s glands, often called the "female prostate." These glands are located near the urethra. When a person becomes highly aroused, these glands can produce a fluid that is chemically different from urine—though, because of where it exits the body, it often contains trace amounts of urea and creatinine. According to research published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, the fluid is a mix of prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) and other components. It’s a real thing. It’s not just "peeing," despite what some skeptical corners of the internet claim, though the bladder does play a role in the volume of the release.
The truth is, focus matters more than force.
The Anatomy of Arousal and the G-Spot
You can't just dive in. If you want to understand how to make her squirt, you have to understand the G-spot. This isn't a button. It's an area. Specifically, it's an extension of the clitoral network that sits on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, about two to three inches inside. When she is turned on, this tissue swells. It gets firmer. It becomes textured, almost like a walnut or a sponge.
Dr. Beverly Whipple, who helped popularize the term "G-spot" in the 1980s, noted that stimulation of this area leads to a different kind of orgasm than clitoral stimulation alone. But here’s the kicker: the clitoris is actually huge. Most of it is internal. When you’re hitting that "spot" on the front wall, you’re actually stimulating the internal "legs" or crura of the clitoris and the Skene’s glands simultaneously.
Don't rush.
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Foreplay isn't just a polite suggestion. It's a biological requirement for most people to reach the level of pelvic congestion necessary for ejaculation. Blood needs to pool in the pelvic floor. The tissues need to become engorged. If she isn't already at a seven or eight on a scale of ten in terms of arousal, trying to force a "squirt" is just going to be uncomfortable or even painful.
Technique and the "Come Hither" Motion
Most people use too much pressure or move way too fast. Think about it. This is sensitive tissue. If you’re using your fingers, you want a firm but rhythmic motion.
Position your hand palm-up. Insert one or two fingers. Once you feel that textured area on the upper wall, use a "come hither" motion. You’re pulling your fingers toward you, curling them upward toward her belly button. This isn't a jackhammer. It’s a wave.
- Vary the rhythm. Sometimes slow and deep is better. Sometimes a faster, flickering motion works.
- Use plenty of lubrication. Even if she seems wet, the friction required for this type of stimulation can quickly lead to irritation.
- The "Two-Finger" Hook. Use your middle and index fingers. While the tips are "hooking" the G-spot, use the base of your hand or your thumb to maintain constant pressure on the external clitoris. This dual stimulation is often the "secret sauce."
The bladder should be somewhat full, but not "I need to run to the bathroom" full. Studies have shown that the fluid released often accumulates in the bladder just before ejaculation. This creates a sensation that many women describe as "needing to pee." This is the moment where most people stop. They feel the urge, they get self-conscious, and they shut it down.
Mental Blocks and the "Pee" Sensation
You have to talk about the "urge."
When the Skene’s glands and the bladder are under pressure, the brain sends a signal: Warning, we are about to urinate. To learn how to make her squirt, she has to feel safe enough to lean into that sensation rather than pulling back. If she tries to hold it in, the muscles tighten, and the orgasm—or the ejaculation—is blocked.
Communication is basically everything here. If she’s worried about the mess, she won’t let go. Put down a towel. Put down two. Make it a non-issue. Tell her it’s okay if she pees. Honestly, even if a little urine comes out, it’s a natural part of the process for many people. The release only happens when the pelvic floor muscles relax and then rhythmically contract. If she’s "guarding" her bladder, it won’t happen.
Different Strokes for Different Folks
Not every woman can squirt. That is a factual, biological reality. Some researchers, like those involved in studies featured in The Journal of Urology, suggest that the size and productivity of Skene’s glands vary wildly from person to person. Some people have very active glands; others have almost none. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't mean you "failed" or that she isn't having a good time.
Actually, many women find the pursuit of squirting to be stressful. If the goal is the fluid rather than the pleasure, you’ve lost the plot.
Positioning for Success
Some positions make it much easier to hit the right angles.
- Woman on Top (Leaning Back). This allows her to control the depth and the angle. By leaning back, she changes the orientation of the vaginal canal, making the G-spot more accessible to the penis or a toy.
- The "Coital Alignment Technique" (CAT). This is a variation of missionary where the partner on top moves higher up, so the base of the penis or the pubic bone grinds constantly against the clitoris and the front wall.
- Edge of the Bed. Having her lie on her back with her hips at the very edge of the bed and her feet on the floor (or your shoulders) creates a steep angle that makes G-spot access much easier for your hand or a toy.
Don't forget toys. There are curved vibrators specifically designed for this. Sometimes the consistent, high-frequency vibration of a dedicated G-spot toy can do what fingers can't. The "Rose" or air-pulse suction toys on the clitoris combined with internal G-spot pulsing is a common "shortcut" for many.
The Chemistry of the Fluid
Let's clear up the "is it pee" debate. It's complicated.
In 2014, a small study used ultrasound to monitor the bladders of women who could squirt. They found that the bladders were empty before stimulation, filled up during arousal, and were empty again after the "squirt." This suggests the bladder acts as a reservoir for the fluid produced by the glands, or that the fluid itself is a highly diluted form of urine mixed with prostatic secretions.
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However, chemical analysis often shows high levels of Glucose and PSA, which aren't usually found in standard urine. So, it's a unique substance. It’s not just "accidental urination." It’s a specific physiological event.
Actionable Steps to Try Tonight
If you’re going to try this, don't make it a "mission." Make it an exploration.
First, set the stage. Eliminate the fear of mess. Use a waterproof blanket or thick towels. This removes the "mental brake" that prevents the release.
Second, focus on the "Build." Spend at least 20 minutes on full-body arousal. The more engorged the pelvic tissues are, the more likely the Skene’s glands will respond.
Third, use the "Hook" technique. Fingers inside, palm up, curling toward the belly button. Start slow. Increase the pressure as she gets closer.
Fourth, encourage her to "push." When she feels that "I need to pee" sensation, tell her to lean into it. Instead of clenching her pelvic floor (Kegel style), she should almost feel like she’s trying to push something out. This relaxation of the external sphincter is what allows the fluid to be released.
Fifth, watch for the signs. Her breathing will change. The area around the urethra might start to swell significantly. This is the "plateau" phase. Stay consistent. Don't change what you’re doing just because she’s getting close—that’s a common mistake. If it’s working, keep that exact rhythm.
Ultimately, squirting is just one way the body experiences pleasure. It isn't the "best" way or the "right" way. Some of the most intense orgasms involve no fluid at all, and some "squirts" aren't actually accompanied by a peak orgasm. They can be two separate events. Focus on the connection and the physical sensation, and let the biology do what it’s going to do.
If you want to dive deeper into pelvic floor health, look into pelvic floor physical therapy. A relaxed, healthy pelvic floor is often the foundation for more intense and varied orgasmic experiences.