It is one of the most debated, misunderstood, and sought-after experiences in the bedroom. People call it "squirting," but the clinical term is female ejaculation, and honestly, there is a massive amount of misinformation floating around the internet about it. You’ve probably seen the videos. You’ve probably wondered if it’s real, if it’s just pee, or if every woman can do it.
The short answer? It is real. But it isn't a performance metric.
If you are trying to figure out how to get a girl to squirt, you have to start by throwing away the "porn" expectations. In those videos, it often looks like a fire hose, which can lead to a lot of frustration for real couples when things don't look exactly like that. Real life is messier, more nuanced, and way more about biology than "magic moves." We are talking about a physiological response that involves the Skene’s glands, the pelvic floor, and a whole lot of relaxation.
The Biology: What is Actually Coming Out?
Before you dive in, you need to understand the plumbing. For decades, the medical community basically ignored this. It wasn’t until researchers like Dr. Beverly Whipple (who helped popularize the term G-spot in the 80s) started looking into it that we got some clarity.
There are actually two different types of fluid. There is "female ejaculation," which is a thick, milky fluid that comes from the Skene’s glands (often called the female prostate). Then there is "squirting," which is a larger volume of clear fluid.
A 2014 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine used ultrasound scans to see what was happening in the bladder before and after squirting. The researchers found that the bladder fills up before the big moment and is empty afterward. Does that mean it's just urine? Not exactly. Chemical analysis usually shows traces of PSA (prostate-specific antigen) and acid phosphatase, which aren't found in normal pee. It’s a diluted mix. It’s unique.
Understanding this helps lower the stakes. If you're worried about "messing the bed," you’re going to be too tense to ever make it happen.
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It Starts With the G-Spot (The Front Wall)
You cannot talk about how to get a girl to squirt without focusing on the anterior wall of the vagina. This is where the G-spot—or the Urethral Sponge—lives.
It’s about two inches inside. Feel for a texture change. Most of the vaginal canal is smooth, like the inside of your cheek, but this specific area feels more like the roof of your mouth—ridged or "walnut-like."
Don't just poke at it. That’s uncomfortable.
You want to use a "come hither" motion. Steady pressure is usually better than fast, frantic movement. Think about it like a slow build. You are trying to engorge that tissue with blood. When that area swells, it presses against the Skene’s glands.
The "Urge" and Why Most People Stop Too Soon
This is the biggest hurdle.
When a woman is getting close to squirting, the sensation almost always feels exactly like she has to urinate. It’s an intense, localized pressure. Because we are socially conditioned not to pee in bed, the natural human instinct is to tense up, squeeze the pelvic floor muscles, and stop the stimulation.
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This is where you have to be a teammate.
You have to communicate. Tell her it’s okay to let go. Put down some towels—not just one, maybe three—so the "mess" isn't a factor in her mind. If she feels safe enough to "pee," she is actually feeling safe enough to ejaculate. If she tenses up, the fluid stays trapped, and the moment passes.
Hydration and the Physical Setup
You can't pour from an empty cup. It sounds silly, but hydration matters. If she’s dehydrated, the volume of fluid simply won't be there.
- Drink water throughout the day.
- Avoid too much caffeine or alcohol, which can numb the nerves.
- Use plenty of lubricant. Even if she seems "wet" enough, the kind of repetitive, firm pressure required for this can cause chafing or irritation quickly.
Positioning is also key. Having her on her back with her hips slightly elevated on a pillow opens up the pelvis and gives you a better angle to reach the front wall. Some people find that the "coital alignment technique" or modified missionary works best, but for manual stimulation, the pillow-under-the-hips trick is the gold standard.
The Role of the Clitoris
Don't ignore the clitoris. While the G-spot is the internal trigger, the clitoris is the powerhouse of pleasure. Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach the level of arousal necessary for the Skene's glands to even start producing fluid.
Try a "dual" approach. Use one hand for the internal "come hither" motion and the other hand (or a vibrator) for the clitoris. The goal is a "full-system" arousal.
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Why It Might Not Happen (And Why That’s Fine)
The truth is, not every woman will squirt.
Anatomy varies wildly. Some women have very active Skene’s glands; others have glands that are much smaller or less productive. A study by Salama et al. suggests that while the structures exist in most women, the ability to expel fluid varies based on pelvic floor strength and hormonal factors.
If you make squirting the "goal" of sex, you’re adding a ton of performance anxiety. Anxiety is the ultimate mood killer. It constricts blood flow. It makes the muscles tight. It prevents the very thing you're trying to achieve.
Focus on the pleasure. If it happens, it’s a fun "bonus" feature. If it doesn’t, but she has three powerful orgasms? That’s still a massive win.
Actionable Steps for Your Next Encounter
- Lay the groundwork. Put two thick towels down. This removes the fear of ruining the mattress.
- Spend 20 minutes on foreplay. Do not even go near the G-spot until she is highly aroused. The tissue needs to be engorged first.
- Find the ridge. Use two fingers, palm up, and find that textured area on the front wall.
- The "Come Hither" Motion. Use firm, rhythmic pressure. Increase the speed only when she asks for it.
- Encourage the release. When she says "I feel like I have to pee," that is your cue. Tell her to push against your fingers. Tell her to let go.
- Stay consistent. Don't change the rhythm right when she's getting close. People often get excited and start moving faster or harder, which can actually break the build-up. Stay the course.
The most important thing is the "push." Instead of "holding it in," she should try to bear down slightly, almost like she’s trying to push your fingers out of her. This relaxes the sphincters and allows the fluid to pass through the urethra.
At the end of the day, learning how to get a girl to squirt is more about patience and psychological safety than it is about some secret physical trick. It's an exploration of her specific body. Listen to her breath, watch her body language, and keep the pressure off.
What to do next
Start by having a conversation outside of the bedroom about what she’s comfortable with. Buy a high-quality, water-based lubricant and a set of absorbent "sex blankets" designed for moisture. Focus on G-spot massage as a relaxation technique rather than a "squirting mission" to lower the pressure during your next session.